February LTC topics (The Vision):
• Intro course
• Month two (march 23) is going to revolve around Small group; month three
(April 20) is going to discuss One on Ones; but this morning we are talking
about the concept and vision behind discipleship to university students and
• Feel free to ask questions anytime.
• Teaching, discussion, exercises each class
• Chi Alpha one of the big 4 campus ministries in the US. primere ministries of
missions in ag, and campus ministry is growing around the world. AG largest
evangelical denomination in the world.
• sanantonio 7. I believe we are sanintonio for Russia
• At end of this semester their will be opportunity to join Chi Alpha leadership,
but we know their are a number here who will not be able to do that so don’t
feel pressure to join Chi Alpha because you are here.
• We want to bridge the gap with other ministries and this was a good way to
do that.
• How we got here. Calling from God
• Discussion of how you got/god called you to campus ministry.
• responsibility to make disciples,
• Matthew 28
• I think in ministry sometimes we complicate ourselves with the primary
objective of discipleship. We can be so busy with outreaches, sermons,
services, etc. Not that any of those things are bad. I personally spend a
huge amount of my time preping and doing those things. but if those things
do not come second to discipleship than we have miss the commission
• Cost of Discipleship: Bonhoffer explains that it’s really learning to live out
our faith that is found in Discipleship that we find the hope that our faith
promises us.
• Nazzies came out of Germany’s cheep grace.
• What is a disciple? What does it take to make disciples?
• Master plan of evangelism Robert Coleman. Picture Jesus
• concentrated on a few
• His concern was not with programs to reach the multitudes, but with
men whom the multitudes would follow. Robert Coleman
• wide shallow impact or a narrow deep inpact
• can do one or the other. expound.
• Hear our guys talk at the start of school about numbers they got,
and loving guys.
• “over my dead body are you going to live a stupid life”
• 9 small group leaders to 15 student leaders to 30 65
• Living life with them
• It wasn’t ...
• Some things are taught and some things are caught
• Matt Henman story/frat. Maybe Chris story of being in community
• University ministry gives us a unique ability to do that
• teaching by doing and inviting them to join in the work
• My Dad always had me help him at the ranch
• You do/They watch; you do/they help; They do/you help; They do/
you watch
• For our ministry we emphasize small groups.
• So, why be a small group leader?
a.
Jesus’ method for “world conquest”.
i.
Small Groups = Organized Discipleship
ii.
SG’s give us a model that simulates Christ discipleship method.
1.
concentrate on a few
2.
live life with them
3.
taught by doing
b.
faithful discipler vs super evangelist- Lindsey
c.
transgenerational discipleship- Brent
i.
GoPaul story.
• most strategic mission field-campus ministry,
• Share the “seat” video
• Elise
• Students are world changers. We are creating culture on universities. World
views, values, ambitions all formed in university life. It’s at univeristy where
you start to ask the question what do I believe?
• Psycologist saying who you are before vs after college
• start of modern missions movement
• haystack revival:
• It was on a Saturday afternoon during the month of August 1806 that five
young men from Williams College in Williamstown, Massachusetts, met
together to pray near a grove of maple trees north of the campus. As a
thunderstorm rolled in overhead, lightning and rain forced the students to
run and take shelter in a haystack. As the storm raged and the lightning
flashed overhead, the students prayed that God would send them across
the seas to share the good news of Jesus Christ with a lost world. God
heard their prayer.
• Campus ministry the most stratigic mission field/ college students most
influential
1.
He is calling us to a heroic purpose greater than ourselves.
a.
Many men & women of the Bible were either reluctant heroes or unlikely heroes.
b.
The Lord of the Ring and Frodo
c.
“He does not call the equipped, He equips the called.”
2.
The 3 ESSENTIAL essentials: If you are going to make disciples that means you’re going to have
to be someone worth replicating. “follow me as I follow Christ”
a.
What attributes would you say a discipler needs to have? What does it take?
b.
Could put lots of things here, but here are what we have seen as being most important
elements in the life of a leader. Without these you will struggle in your walk with God. It
isn’t impossible, but it is difficult.
i.
Devotional Life
ii.
Community
iii.
Responsibility
1.
Why do you think responsibility would be necessary for spiritual growth?
2.
This includes more than being in a supervisory role. This is being
responsible to help someone else grow in their walk with God.
3.
“Action springs not from thought, but from a readiness for
responsibility.” ― Dietrich Bonhoeffer
4.
in my power I am not going to let you live a stupid life
5.
Light vs. Salt - Go out to them
• Situation in Russia right now
• Huge potential
• Scott Martin: most primed country in the world for campus ministry to
flourish
• we are in an San Antonio 7 situation. A few ministries
• 50 years if the Lord tarries look back and see /parallel with US today
and we look back
• Invite you to be part
• Q and A
• life history map and their unique story (if time over lunch)
Power of One on One Relationship
1. The Necessity for one on one relationship
a. My story of walking into a large group meeting and never needing to
come back
i.
They hadn’t done anything to keep me from coming back, and if I
was a strong Christian who knew his need for community I might,
or if I was really lonely, but there was no greater draw after i left
than when I first arrived.
b. Why so? What can you do in a one on one that is harder in a large group
setting?
i.
Their is no history with them, vs. lot’s of history with others
ii.
Their is little opportunity for in depth interaction with individuals
that could really facilitate building friendships
iii. Their is no trust to go their
iv. Their is a viewer only mentality in large groups that restricts buy
in.
c.
“The ideal discipling model is not either/or but both small group and
one-on-one discipleship.” –Harvey Herman
i.
We must have BOTH.
d. Biblical Basis:
i.
“And you also must testify, for you have been with me from the
beginning.” – John 15:27
1. We don’t see Jesus have much one-on-one time with his
disciples, but that’s primarily because he LIVED with them.
Jesus said “you also must testify”, as in give witness to WHO
I AM. They say if you really want to know someone live with
them. What better way for the disciples to give witness to
who Jesus was than to actually live with him.
ii.
Jesus was always WITH his disciples and could minister to them
individually as they had need.
e. Connection to larger community.
i.
How does someone usually get involved & stay involved with a
community of believers? How did you get involved with your
church or ministry group?
2. What is a One-on-one?
a. More than a peer relationship.
i.
They have lots of “peers” that will be fun to hang out with but will
never lead them closer to the Lord. You are more than just a fun
person to hang out with for them.
b. Tailored to the individual. Not everyone you’re hanging out with will be a
Christian and not every Christian you hang out with will the same kind of
ministry.
i.
Example of personal discipleship relationship
3. The Purpose of One-on-One Discipleship
a. Individual teaching vs. group teaching
i.
The small group meeting is meant to be communal while the one-
on-ones are regular times for in depth personal ministry/growth.
1. There is not enough time within each small group meeting
to address the needs for every individual.
2. Analogy: Individual tutoring vs. group learning Who here
has ever taken private tutoring? How is it different than the
group class setting? How is better? Is there anything it
lacks?
ii.
How are our Outpost meetings different than small group? How is
small group different than one-on-one time?
b. To get to know each other on a deeper level
i.
The people you spend the most time with usually end up being
some of your closest friends.
ii.
You cannot form a real, individual relationship with 5 people in
only a 2-hour a week meeting. Nor can you help them walk out
their faith in that amount of time.
iii. Three points of contact a week. Small group meeting, one-on-one,
& another time of contact. Examples: social group hangouts,
phone calls, etc.
c.
To minister to the individual, and to help them in their walk with God.
i.
What does this person need?
1. Inner healing? Bible Study? Prayer? Wisdom? Correction?
ii.
You are not a trained counselor/psychologist.
1. If someone in your small group is dealing with suicidal
thoughts you have an OBLIGATION to tell someone who can
take action on that student’s behalf.
iii. These can be some of the most revealing conversations you have
with people. They will share their heart, their sins, their secrets.
1. Abortions
2. Rape
3. Sexual Immorality
4. Doubts about God
5. Etc.
6. Friend telling me in college he was gay
d. A stepping stone to openness and honesty within a group
i.
Story of guys struggling with homosexuality and need for one on
one vulnerability first.
4. How do I get started
a. Friendship is the goal
b. First contact
i.
Who is in your world already you could befriend?
ii.
you can travel half way around the world, but unless you know how
to share with the student next to you how do you expect to
minister in any other context?
1. Missionary friend 6k to 6 steps.
c.
principles of pursuit
i.
Pursue them first. Don’t expect them to pursue you
1. Be part of their world. Don't immediately expect them to be
part of yours
a. Everyone feels comfortable in their world and
Christians tend to invite people into their world, but
not pursue people in theirs as much.
2. Always let them know they are invited into your world, but
don't expect it right away
a. Brent and brown Dema good example this year
3. Jesus didn't say come where I am but came to earth
a. God first pursued us in the bible.
ii.
3 contacts a week
iii. One of the best ways to honor someone is to have them teach you
something. Not only is this a sign of humility but also a great way
to get to know someone.
1. Find out what they like to do and do it with them.
iv. Have a growing list of places to hang out or things to do.
1. shooting was community building for me
d. Friendship building
i.
Discipleship is a PROCESS, not a project. The minute someone
senses you do not genuinely care for them, that they are merely a
project, they will run.
ii.
This involves your attitude towards meeting one-on-one with the
individual. Do you merely just want them to agree with all of your
teaching/opinions or do you care that they have a personal,
intimate walk with Jesus?
iii. Friendship Evangelism
1. should be redundant
2. Why is friendship a good way to do evangelism?
a. “People don't care what you know until they know
that you care
b. Many cultures have seasons of being seeker oriented,
but outside of that most people don’t even care
about God until you show them why He is attractive
e. Foundation of friendship
i.
“That is why those pathetic people who simply “want friends” can
never make any. The very condition of having Friends is that we
should want something else besides Friends.Where the truthful
answer to the question Do you see the same truth? would be “I see
nothing and I don’t care about the truth; I only want a Friend,” no
Friendship can arise—though Affection of course may. There would
be nothing for the Friendship to be about; and Friendship must be
about something, even if it were only an enthusiasm for dominoes
or white mice. Those who have nothing can share nothing; those
who are going nowhere can have no fellow-travellers.”C.S. Lewis,
The Four Loves (1960; Harcourt Brace: 1991) 66-67.
ii.
For us vs. for them. foundation is loving them through basketball,
or games, or sports. For them its just basketball, or games, or
sports.
iii. Struggle with this idea, but we start here so it can grow. If we
force people to have friendship based on Christ, by making that
the focus of what we do together, they will only be your friend if
they want Christ
iv. Small groups and large gatherings helpful to break in.
v.
Never underestimate the power of holy spirit to change anything I
say here today.
1. friend who had a girlfriend break up with him.
5. How to have a one-on-one relationship
a. What should a one on one look like?
i.
DO NOT call it a “one-on-one” when you first meet people. That is
weird. Especially in Russia. It’s always sounded less organic than I
feel a relationship with someone should be.
ii.
Use DISCERNMENT.
1. Is this person a believer? If so, how should I bring up their
walk with God?
2. Remember Acts 1:8?
a. “But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit
has come upon you, and you will be my witnesses in
Jerusalem and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the
end of the earth."
iii. Power of good questions
b. Unchristian
i.
If the person is a non-believer.
1. Be intentional. Come with good questions.
a. Ask for examples of good questions to have.
b. Don’t always be talking about their thoughts of God,
unless that’s where the conversation always goes. But
be prepared when it does arise.
i.
Go fishing: When your together throw out a
thought or question and see if you get a bite.
2. Be prepared
a. Pray before your hang out.
c.
Christian
(1)
First: I let disciple set the agenda if they desire with initial questions
about areas of life. Ask them “What do you want to talk about today”?
(a)
What is God teaching them today (affirm)/ or
(b)
What are they wondering about (instruct/coach)?
(2)
Second: think through how you can do faith with them instead of just
teaching them faith
(a)
Lindsey doing devotionals with girls a good example here
(3)
Third: If nothing comes up than be prepared with a principle to
discuss.
(a) What do they need to better love God today?
(b)
Love God with all your heart (emotions), strength (actions), soul
(spiritual disciplines), mind (write thinking)
i)
Graph with four boxes and heart, strength, soul, and mind at
the top of each box.
ii)
In heart or emotions box you can talk about helping someone
let go of emotional hurt is a common form of helping them
love God better; Strength or actions could be ideas like going
and serving someone together; Soul or Spiritual Disciplines
could be doing a devotional together; and mind or orthodoxy
could be discussing what God is teaching you about Himself.
iii) Third you can circle the whole graph and title it friendship
which is the foundation for you to speak into their lives.
(c)
One on ones start with that objective in those areas
(d)
Where does friendship fit into this paradyme?
i)
Friendship is the foundation where those truths can be best
imparted
i.
ask questions of examples for each box
ii.
Doing vs Talking faith together
1. stories of doing faith together
a. lindsey devotional
b. me prayer in park
2. Jesus and prayer in garden
3. be creative.
iii. Progression
1. Throughout the year these meetings should get more
intense in their questions and in their content.
2. The beginning is mostly get-to-know you and really just
seeing where they are at in their walk with God and
evaluating what they need.
3. After a few weeks/months (depending on the person) you
can progress to deeper/harder questions or regular Bible
study with them, teaching them to pray, etc.
4. Include other’s in the small group.
iv. Different personalities/meeting styles.
1. BE FLEXIBLE. Adjust to the person.
2. If you are a spontaneous person you might need to adjust
w/ some people, for their sake, to have structure &
predictability, and vice versa.
3. Some people need structure and predictability
4. Some people feel a meeting is stiff & too formal with too
much structure Talk about differences between Jackie &
Diane
6. One on One exercise
a. Blink factor
b. Do one of the below scenarios for fun and to get them thinking of how
they would handle the situation:
i.
ii.
Your wrestling with God’s existence. Your a new believer who just
accepted Christ this semester, but now your not so sure. Maybe
what you felt about God a month ago was just because you were
going through a hard time in life. How can I really know God is
real?
iii.
iv. Your wrestling with Homosexuality. You’ve grown up in church,
and have a solid walk with the Lord but you struggle with this and
want freedom from the temptation. You think that it may have
started because of the way your father treated you growing up, but
you don’t know how you get rid of these feelings that you have.
v.
vi. Your an Atheist who is curious why someone would believe in God,
but can get a little aggressive with your views. The real issue is
that your Dad left when you were little, and you blamed God for all
the hurt that caused. You don’t see how God could be in the world
because of how much pain you’ve felt in life.
vii.
viii.Your sleeping with your significant other, but want to finally
confess it. You don’t want to break up with them, but the
significant other thinks that having sex out of wedlock is perfectly
ok. You may not even be sure how bad you think it is even though
you know the Bible says so. At least you don’t want to believe that
if it means you loose the significant.
ix.
x.
Your significant other of two years just broke up with you, and you
are devastated. They have been the idol in your life, even if you
wont always admit it. You’re wrestling with who you are, and your
value now that they are not in your life.
xi.
xii. You have been getting wasted at a number of parties because of
friends who pressure you to drink. If someone tries to tell you that
you shouldn’t be there you start to argue biblically that drinking
isn’t bad, or that you are the only witness these friends have.
xiii.
xiv.Their is a guy/girl that you like, but who one of the other guys/
girls in your small group also likes. You told that guy/girl who you
liked early on, but now they have gone and started dating that very
person. This is causing a lot of division between you two, and you
don’t know how you can even be in the same small group at that
person.
7. Q and A
a. what one on one topics would people like resources for?
b. What questions do people have about one on ones?
Can we invite people to our church
Notes from Spring 2011:
I.
I. Small group is not a Bible Study, nor a hang out, but somewhere in between.
A. We understand in Chi Alpha that building relationships is crucial to
showing someone who Jesus is.
B. We must expose our small group members to genuine, Godly friendships
and sound theological and Biblical teaching.
2. We understand not everyone will be at the same place spiritually,
which speaks back to the importance of one-on-one’s.
“The most fertile atmosphere for faith and maturity in Christ is exposure to strong
Christians.”
II.
Styles of Leadership (How a leader operates)
a.
The four most common leadership styles:
i.
Autocratic (dictator): militant, useful with a crowd who is largely ignorant
or has a low level of education
ii. Authoritative (firm or dominant): encourages independence, but places
limits and controls; has clear standards
iii. Democratic (group-centered): members have input but leader has final
say; members engaged and motivated
iv. Laissez-faire (group-lead): only effective when all members are highly
qualified; roles usually are poorly defined
b.
The issue is not, “Which is better than all others?”, but “Which is best for a
particular group at a particular time?”
i.
Most effective style of leadership: shifts from an early position of
dominance to a later position of facilitation.
ii. Dominance: Leader should be initiator, first to share (personal histories,
testimonies, responses to discussion questions, etc).
iii. Facilitator: assist in their sharing, ask questions, highlight truths
expressed, make transitions within the meeting
c.
Goal: to empower students in your small group by delegating responsibility as
they are ready
III.The Small Group Meeting Format Lindsey
3.1) Have Fun!
4.3) Sharing- to much content, and the group will grow
relationally stale.
5.2) Content- Should call everyone to a place of personal
application during the following
week. Should be more of a discussion mode than a lecture
time.
6.4) Prayer- Prayer supernaturally fuses hearts together.
Note: You should not stick to this format rigidly, if one phase is
needed more than the other, feel free to allow it to carry on as
long as you think.
• Harvy’s Discipleship by Design thought of what you are trying to have during small group
• ! 1)Affirmation: There is nothing you have done or will do that will keep me from loving
you.
• 2) Availability: Anything I have is yours, to the limit of my resources
• 3) Prayer: I commit to pray for you in a regular fashion
• 4) Openness: I commit to be open to you, with my feelings, my hurts joyʼs etc.
This is to reafirm your worth to me as a person. I need you!
• ! ! Resource: TED Talk/ Brene Brown “The power of vulnerability” 3:45-10:51
• 5) Honesty: I will be honest with you, even if it hurts, the both of us. I trust our
relationship enough.
• 6) Sensitivity: Work to be sensitive to his/her needs. Slow down and listen.
• 7) Confidentiality: maintaining an atmosphere of trust for openness sake.
• 8) Accountability: I am accountable to become what God has called me to be, not only for
my sake but for yours.
V. III. So, what do I actually talk about in small group?
A. How do I help this group Love God more today
B. Listen to the Holy Spirit
1. Share about your own walk with God and what He is teaching you!
2. If you do have a devotional life (reading good books, listening to
sermons, reading the Bible), you will always be stirred about
something!
a. Remember, God is infinite, and if you ever stop learning stuff
about Him, it’s your own fault.
b. If you try to be a small group leader without a devo. life, it will
be the hardest thing you will ever do, and you will fail.
c. I always tell my guys to always be stirred about something of
God, and if you’re not, go find something to be stirred about.
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IV. How do I teach the content?
A. “Try and get everyone involved. Try and keep the atmosphere informal. Be a
thermostat with your attitude. Have fun, and cut up.” – Josh Nitcholas
B. Share your experience on a certain topic with The Outpost. Give your own
history.
1. Don’t just teach the topic, but tell how it has played out in your own
life.
C. Use “throwing thoughts.”
1. Share what God has been teaching you and ask them what they think.
(remember, avoid yes and no questions).
2. Utilize your students you know will understand and who you know will
be involved.
a. F.A.T. students (define)
3. Keep the atmosphere at a conversational style. Be purposeful in leading
(keep it on topic), but always give them opportunity to interject.
D. Don’t always have your small group at your house or dorm.
1. Take roadtrips to Denver for the night (make memories)
2. Go out to eat for small group
3. Coffee shops
4. One of your students’ houses or dorms (give them responsibility)
E. 3 ways Jesus taught. Preaching multitudes/teaching with doing to SG/or taught in a
memorable way if you couldn’t do the principle. Be creative on how you teach topics
1. Guys bond side by side / girls bond face to face
2. Brent went to a graveyard to teach Lordship
3. Danielle had a burning party – give up your rights
4. In the past, in order to teach mind in love with Christ – watch a secular
movie and talk about the Godly principles in the movie
5. Fast together as a small group
V. The brotherhood (or sisterhood) of a small group Brent
A.
B. The goal is to become brothers or sisters
A. We need the 4 C’s to be brothers or sisters
a. Common commitment – how can we be brothers if we never see
you??
b. Common purpose – we are trying to grow closer to God
c. Common understanding – we are not perfect, we need each
other, we love each other, etc…
d. Constant forgiveness / unselfishness – duh!
I.
In Small group
1. How can you achieve this?
a. Everyone honor a different small group member each week
b. Clean each other’s houses
c. Cook for one another
d. Do stuff outside of small group - make them part of your circle
of friends – road trips, postPOST, late-night Braden, shooting
e. Create a comfortable atmosphere where they can be themselves.
f. Do something as a group that one of the members can teach you
g. Carry each other’s burdens – meet each other’s needs
h. Give each member ownership in the group
1. host
2. worship leader
3.
food provider
4.
event planner
ii.
2. Use small group time not only to
talk and pray together but also to be active in doing
something. (Trash pickup, prayer walking, Rotic
night, make Christmas cards, go be active… hike,
climb, ride bikes, ski, play disc golf)
iii.
iv.
3. Road trips to wherever
v.
vi.
Tell your testimony! A testimony is a story
about anything that God has done in your life. This
usually involves humility to show our weakness and
how God has lead or is leading us to victory in a
certain area of our lives. If we show our new friends
that God is the hero of our lives by confessing our
weakness and exalting God then they will also
develop that same mind. If we tell our small groups
to be open with one another but we ourselves are not
open then they will not get it. Vision casting is
meant to motivate people toward a preferable future.
Vision casting makes something that might be
impossible look like it is possible. (Example: change
the world from Huntsville TX)
vii.
viii.
The best way to encourage openness and
vulnerability with your small group is to be open
and vulnerable yourself. If we do this it simply
shows that we trust them. In this way they learn that
we are also trustworthy. (Why doesn’t God send a
manifestation in the middle of campus?)
I.
Outside of small group Facilitate discussion amongst group here, but here are
some ideas.
•
•
1. FOOD (cook food, steaks, etc) [introduce our friends from Beaumont and ask
them how much we cooked for them]
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2. Find out what they like to do and join them (concerts [Brian Mulvahill
example], video games, outside activities). Get them to teach you something. [Working on cars,
teach the guitar (Jason Smith), play sports with them (Indian guys - cricket)]
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3. BreakAway Retreat. Push this one hard as it is our one big "get-away" event.
I've seen people grow together as close friends from this 2-day event. Offer to help pay for
them if they don't have the money… or if you don't have the money then work together to get
the money (My engagement).
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4. Early in the year hang out in groups as much as possible so you don't seem like
a creep. Even though we mostly lead our own small groups solo we will waste a lot of time and
effort if trying to only hang out with new people by ourselves. Share your Christian brothers
and sisters with the new people you meet.
•
• Ok, so we've got all these great ways of getting people together but (ASK) How do we take
people assembled in a group and direct community building?
•
•
1. Be intentional. We must use our words wisely by building up what God is
doing in each one of us. I remember so many times back at Sam Houston State U when I would
hear small group leaders talk good about someone else behind their back in order to create a
sense of honor and close-knit brotherhood in the group. Let me tell you.. IT WORKS. God
loves it when we build one another up with words that ultimately glorify Him. Or if you just
don't know what to talk about when you meet people then just talk good behind people's backs.
After they've met with your other friends then you can start asking them what they think of
(billy) and go back to billy and tell him the awesome things that joe said behind his back.
•
•
Later in the year (after the first month… small group ownership): ASK AGAIN...
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1. Get small group to plan their own events. This creates ownership, empowers
each person in the small group, and builds responsibility.
VI. I don’t know if I can do this!!
A. Recognize you are not perfect!
1. Invite potential small group members to come learn how to follow
Jesus with you! (This is less intimidating)
2. Trial and error – don’t be afraid to be creative (use the talents God has
given you!)
3. Be a learner – you are still growing yourself – you will always be.
a. You may have a small group member that’s smarter than you! -
be grateful for it!
4. Ask for help! – Use the body of Christ (resource group, friends,
church, etc…)!
B. Be persistent! - growth will not happen overnight, maybe not even for awhile,
but if you don’t give up, your small group will surprise you!
C. Make friends! – You all know how to do this anyways – so be purposeful with
it!
D. Don’t compare your group to other groups (girl-groups usually have a ton, guy
groups usually have 3-5, but God will give you what you aks for!)
1. I used to pray, “Lord, give me one.”
2.
Story of Dryden.
V.
A Potpourri of Questions Regarding Small Group Life Lauren
a.
How large should a Small Group become?
i.
Experience has shown 4-6 people is the ideal, larger groups may suffer
from less relational growth and may need co-leaders
b.
How long should a meeting last?
i.
A minimum of two hours is necessary to accomplish the goals of a small
group. This allows for sharing, learning, and prayer without feeling rushed
or hurried.
c.
How often should a meeting occur and when?
i.
To stay current with each other it is necessary to meet with each other at
least once a week. The best times are in the evenings, but late afternoon
can be good as well.
d.
Should discipleship groups be co-ed or sexually segregated?
i.
The most successful groups have been segregated. Issues of self-
concept, past problems, plus intimate issues such as sex abuse or sexual
history are of huge concern to college students. Co-ed groups have
proven to be to inhibiting and require such great maturity that they have a
higher probability of disbanding. Segregated groups enhance
commitment and reduce game-playing.
e.How do you answer when someone's says something non biblical
i.
Do you know what their question thought is
ii. Do you know where they are coming from
iii. Say good idea but this is what the bible says
iv. Or say good ideas but this was whati was thinking this week. Biblical
ideas are good but not what your going for.
v.
f.Is it ok to question the bible?
i.
Question: are you asking if the bible is true or what is the bible teaching?
ii. Leader ok always to ask the second but should have the first kind of
question answered
1.Leader should be ok with everyone asking both kind of
questions.
Exercise on what are good ideas of how to teach different topics of fundamentals.
Show resources of fundamentals
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